Haven Okinawa — A harbor for whatever you're weathering

About

You don't have to figure it out alone.

I'm Royce — a U.S. Navy veteran with 24 years in some of the highest-consequence work the military does. I spent my career leading people and managing risk where mistakes weren't an option, and I've spent the years since helping people find their footing when things get hard.

I live here in Okinawa. My wife is Japanese, our family is bicultural, and I've walked the SOFA, immigration, and intercultural-marriage road myself — not from a textbook, but from my own kitchen table. I hold a degree in interdisciplinary studies, I'm continuing graduate work in psychology, and I'm a certified school counselor. But the thing I bring that no credential gives you is this: I've been inside the systems you're trying to understand, and I've stood close to where you're standing now.

Why trust me? Because I'll tell you the truth about your situation — including when it's beyond what I can help with, and exactly who you should talk to instead. I keep what you tell me private. I don't create records, diagnoses, or reports. And I have no agenda except helping you see clearly and decide for yourself.

24-year Navy veteran Lives in Okinawa · bicultural family Graduate studies in psychology Certified school counselor Organizational consultant Author, Invisible Ranks

What we do

Non-clinical counseling support.

Before it becomes a case, a diagnosis, a record, or a decision you can't take back — there's a place to just understand what's happening. Haven is the informal first conversation: private, non-clinical, and grounded in real experience with the systems you're navigating.

What we work through together

Is it really as bad as they say?

Fear makes everything louder. We right-size it and look at what's actually true.

What is actually happening here?

We name it plainly and cut through the confusion, so you can see the real shape of it.

What's my plan?

Concrete, doable next steps — and the discipline of not making it worse in the meantime.

Is this still in my hands?

An honest read on when it's beyond coaching and needs a professional — and who that should be.

Where I can help

Understanding your situation & options

For service members and dependents facing something alone — unsure of their rights, their options, or what SOFA actually covers. Orientation and clarity, in plain terms. Not legal advice — the map before you act.

Intercultural marriage — the gray areas

The misunderstandings and cracks that bicultural couples fall through, that no one ever explains. The granular, commonly-misunderstood details — from someone living it. Protection through understanding.

Getting your bearings under pressure

When the fear is loud and the picture is confusing, a steady person who's been through hard water and can help you think clearly again.

Mentorship for young adults

A steady outlet and a sounding board for young adults who just need someone in their corner — no judgment, no agenda.

Ideas & building

From a conversation to a working prototype — support for people with something they want to make. Realistic and paced to your own resources.

Support to the level you want

Advice, coaching, or just a place to think out loud. You decide how much, and how far — every time.

Where I fit

The step before. A private first conversation before it becomes an appointment, a record, or a decision you can't undo.

A complement, not a replacement. Alongside an MFLC, mental-health, or legal professional — never instead of them. I can help you decide whether to use them, and get ready for it.

Honest about my lane. Non-clinical. Not therapy, not legal advice. When it's beyond me, I say so and point you to the right professional.

Private. No records, no diagnoses, no reports. Just a place to think clearly.

A harbor for whatever you're weathering.